Most knew her as Bobbie, but to Colin and Tyler, she was simply "Mom". Our mother, who we loved beyond words, Barbara Ann Harry, formerly Bobbie Clemens, passed away in her home with the comfort of her family in the early hours of Wednesday, January 13, 2021. She was a fiercely loving mother to us two boys who everyone knew always came first. She enthusiastically spoke of us. The older and first born better looking son, Colin Harry, was followed by her more successful and responsible son, Tyler Hatfield. We three love each other fully and unconditionally. The light and warmth of our mom has also been felt by her family and many friends. Our mother leaves behind her prides and joy, Colin Harry, of Burlington, NJ and Tyler Hatfield, of Delanco, NJ; her father Edward Clemens, of Burlington, NJ; mother, Barbara Clemens, of Edgewater Park, NJ; and her three close sisters, "the Irish twin" Toni Lott of Tabernacle, NJ; "the compassionate one" Wendy Clemens of Springfield Twp.; and her "beautiful baby sister" Shelley Cutshaw of Edgewater Park, NJ. The more than caring sister in-law to Lance Lott and Bryan Cutshaw, and soon-to-be Phillip Dengler. She was also the loud and loving "Aunt Bob" to her nephews and nieces, Charlie & Ashley Wheatley, Eric, Chelsey & Amber Molineaux, Macy & Ryan Urbshot, and Isabella, Kyle & Colby Cutshaw. Our mom, also known for her hard working and fearless attitude, leaves behind many loving aunts, uncles, and cousins. With every family there are ups and downs, but family love never dies. Our mother's flame has burned out but her warmth will be forever felt.
Barbara "Bobbie" Clemens was born on June 11, 1962. She grew up in the Columbus Park section of Burlington, NJ. She lived in a small family home with her hard-working father, "Snooky", and lovely, talkative, homemaker mother, Barb, along with her three sisters and their beloved dog, Muffin. Bobbie was known as the "wild child" and during her late teens a "badass" in her yellow Chevelle. Her Chevelle, as well as a few other cars, suffered some dings and dents. Bobbie graduated from Burlington City High School Class of 1980. She later settled down buying a home in her hometown where she raised her two boys. Bobbie was a single mother who worked two jobs to provide for her family. She later found her place and work family at Wholefoods where she worked equally as hard. There is no denying Bobbie was a hard-working mom but she still found time for family, friends and those in need. Bobbie's love of the beach, ocean, family and pets were crystal clear. Everything she did was with love and a smile on her face. She simply was a force to be reckoned with and her love and attitude about life will be missed by all.
Colin misses his mother completely. Her smile was big and definitely bright. Only those who have lost an amazing parent know how hard it is. I would be unsuccessful to try and begin to describe how I feel. The hurt is unimaginable and so great because she was so great. Her voice when I'd walk in the door and hear, "Well, Hiii Col. What's up with you?" still echoes in my head. If I only knew my days with my mom were so limited, I surely would have had more to say, more times to say, "I love you mom". She did everything for me and no amount of "thank you" would ever be enough. My mom was a selfless person and found happiness in helping others, not just me. Everyone can say my mom did something great for them and she never asked for anything in return. Her reputation couldn't be matched and I couldn't ask for a better person to have raised me. I'll never forget one of the last things she said to me, "I love you more than you'll ever know, Col". Bye mom, I love you too.
Tyler, while trying to imagine what his future looks like, can’t help but reflect on his childhood and the life he had with his mother. My mom was and always will be my role model. She was extraordinary throughout ordinary life. The way she lived was quite simple honestly, just to be a good human being. Her love radiated through others. What she received was minuscule compared to what she gave. She handed out much more than she took or was offered. The simple cliché of “the good die young” couldn’t be any more true. No one will ever know why or how things come to be the way they are in such times, but if there is one thing my mother did before she left this world, it was to show me the meaning of happiness. My mother now gets to live through me and my brother. My decisions will always be encouraged by my mother. I now look at my journey and will ask the same question to myself many times over, “What would my mom do?”
Toni asks, “Where do I begin?” There are so many things I will never have now that you are gone. No more late night chats, hanging by the pool, doing Dad's yardwork together and being dirty, sweaty and giving dad shit as he tells us his "lawn mower works." We have been each other’s go-to with the many things we have dealt with in our lives. I am going to miss all the holidays where we have made so many memories. The milestones we have watched our sisters and children make in their lives. Both of us watching my first grandchild, Marley, come into this world. My heart is forever broken and I know I will still constantly wait for you to call me. I am really going to miss "Hey Tone, what ya doing?" every time you called. The silencing of your voice is deafening. I have lost my Irish twin, but I know all that have gone before us were waiting with open arms. I am so very grateful for the relationship we had. I will cherish that forever. Until we meet again Rest Easy my beautiful sister, Bobbie.
Wendy will forever miss her big sister. I was always in awe of Bobbie growing up with her free spirit and careless attitude. She was one-of-a-kind and lived life on her terms. From childhood memories with the "tomboy" of our family of girls, to driving around in her Maverick in our teenage years listening to Pink Floyd and The Who, to our love of Peter Frampton, Willie Ames and our dog, Muffin. Bobbie and I were blessed to become parents in the same year and we loved spending time together with our children. My sister was the strongest, hardest working, most determined person I've ever known. If she set her mind to something, there was no stopping her. She was unique, kind and caring. Always a positive attitude and very affectionate to those she loved. Nothing has ever been so hard than to be strong enough to help her let go. Until we meet again on the beautiful beaches in heaven Bobbie, enjoy and the warmth, sunshine and all the love you deserve and "Shine on you Crazy Diamond". I love you now and forever.
Shelley will always miss her beautiful, fun and crazy big sister, Bobbie. Even though there was a 12 year age difference, as a kid, Bobbie always took me with her everywhere she went from hanging out with her friends at bonfires that would last so long even Muffin would get tired and go home without us, to driving around in her car listening to music, or day trips to the beach. My favorite memories though are when Bobbie would pick me up from school every Monday and just the 2 of us would go to dinner. I have amazing memories and think about so many countless acts of her kindness. Even in her last days, Bobbie’s positive attitude remained and she was more concerned about her boys and the rest of the family. I always loved Bobbie’s free spirit and wished I could be more like her. She enjoyed life to the fullest. I love you Bob.
A private burial is planned for immediate family and a “Celebration of Life” on a date to be determined. In lieu of flowers, please make donations in her memory to Angels Helping Animals, 326 New Albany Road, Moorestown, NJ 08057 or the Burlington County Animal Shelter, 35 Academy Drive, Westampton, NJ 08060.
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